As the warmth of the sun shines down, love tends to flutter about like Cupid in the middle of February.
And further still, is summer romance something you really want to dive into? Likely, you worry about a sudden romantic drop-off in August. Or whether the relationship is too good to be true.
Unsurprisingly, Hollywood and romance novels have greatly impacted how we perceive summer romance. Though, there may be more to them than you think. Here’s why.
Does the Weather Motivate Romance?
The media tells us to romanticize summer by depicting that the best romances happen in the summer. For every romance kindling on a snow-covered ski lodge, there are a hundred blossoming under the warm summer sun.
At times, it might seem that there is something in the summer water causing all the romance. More than anything, dating just feels easier during the warm weather.
And yes, the weather plays a huge role in bringing a summer romance to life. Not only does it increase serotonin levels, boosting your mood, but it also puts you in a “vacation-like” mode. Because of the summer attitude, you’re naturally more open to love and adventure.
Why Summer Romance Feels Good
It’s not uncommon to see the best side of a person during the summer. Also, this makes feeling connected with them easier, too. And stress-free connectivity feels good.
Furthermore, family-oriented gatherings taper off, allowing for more time to spend with friends, usually in the outdoors. Unsurprisingly, time with friends is usually more laid back than other get-togethers.
Like mentioned before, the sunshine increases your serotonin level, putting you in an overall great mood. And thank that attractive sun-kissed glow for your skyrocketing confidence level.
Aside from feeling more confident and open to romance, it’s just easier to date in the summer. For instance, you don’t really have to come up with incredibly interesting or original date ideas. Cookouts, beach bonfires, and pool parties have you covered.
Summer’s Over, Now What?
For most, the big concern with a summer romance is whether it will make it past the end of August. While summer is a lesser known time to deal with big conflicts, that worry-free phase often ends once the warm weather is over. What this means is that your summer romance may end, as well.
It’s not that all summer romances are doomed to fail. More often than not, the overly giddy romantic feeling ends with summer and the couple decides that a more grounded relationship isn’t worth pursuing. And that’s okay.
Be aware too, that some summer flings can be completely intentional and often one-sided. With high serotonin levels and an ideal atmosphere for romance, a summer romance could be a fling in disguise. After all, Autumn “ghosting” is a very real thing.
Pros and Cons of Summer Dating
It can be really fun to embark on summer adventures like boating, hiking, or picnics together. For some, amazing relationships have started in the summer. Simply keep in mind that easy come easy go. Once the easy-going feel of summer is over, are you truly dedicated to nurturing the relationship?
Rather than embracing a “no summer dating” rule, establish some boundaries to safeguard your wellbeing.
For instance, if you’re worried about a broken heart then stay away from the telltale signs of a summer fling. Some red flags include rushing the relationship, remaining a mystery to each other, or openly flirting with others.
Beginning a healthy romance in the summer can come with its own unique set of challenges. For help navigating the intricate twists and turns of romance, learn more about my relational counseling services so that I can support you on your journey.